My hubby gets decent jobs and then quits them sitting at home for months at a time with no job and no income.?

It is my fault that he cant keep a job. If I could work rather than stay home and stay with the kids then he wouldn't feel so overwhelmed. But when i suggest to look for a job even though i am handicapped and leave to put in applications the kids are crying, not been fed etc. So he moved his mother in with us. His mom was suppose to help she didn't. I am now her full time maid, but while she won't help me she supports everything her son says. He wants to quit his job again. We relocated because he exhausted all the jobs in a large city area. She supports him etc. I know the signs and I know he is getting frustrated with the work place he wants it all to be perfect adn he's always the victim played so well. He won't accept that everyone's job involves dealing with a jerk supervisor who has his favorites and my hubby isn't one. How can I get him to understand that a job is important. No matter as long as his mom supports him to his face and backstabs him he won't learn.

My hubby gets decent jobs and then quits them sitting at home for months at a time with no job and no income.?
OK I'm quoting the Bible here. Timothy 5:8 But if any provide not for his own, and specially those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. An infidel is someone who doesn't believe in God.





He needs to get off his *** and get to work and enjoy the fact that he has a job regardless of how imperfect it may make his day. Waaah!





How the hell can you be concerned about how ovverwhelmed he is. You are the one who is taking care of the kids and his Mom and earning a living and no telling what else. He is being a parasite. A parasite is an animal that lives off the blood of another. It doesn't do anything except sit there and draw blood. Ask your husband if he is considered to be a guest in the house or someone with responsibility. This guy pisses me off. I don't have anyone to take care of but myself. I wish I had a family that I could take care of them and they could take care of me. But I don't know if that will ever happen. It makes me sick when people don't appreciate what they have.
Reply:Talk to him about all the jobs he has had and ask him if he really thinks a different job is going to be different. It sounds to me like he doesn't like the idea of doing what it takes to do a job. Supervisors have a lot of pressure to get things done a certain way with a certain amount of labor. Often know the job but they are given no training on how to get people to do it. This leads to, well you know what it leads to.





There is nothing you can tell your husband. Let me say it again, There is nothing you can tell your husband. You can only ask questions that lead him to come to your conclusion--that he should just stay. He already knows this, just lead him to it. Think of your questions and think of how he will try to squirm out of answering them. Think of your response to that squirming all ahead of time so you aren't caught off guard.





I agree with the people ahead of me too.
Reply:How exactly is it your fault he can't keep a job? What overwhelmes him the fact that you cleaned the house and took care of the kids or the fact that he is a loser and trying to make you feel useless. Or it could be the fact nay he's just a loser get rid of him. It doesn't seem like he helps out so what do you need him for. The kids would just "overwhelm him". I am sorry you have such a self-serving husband, maybe he would grow up but mom is there to keep him in the rut he is in.
Reply:id say kick him to the curb till he can learn to grow up and not rely on mommy to support him, once we get old enough to hold a job we should support ourselves, if im not working or supporting my kids in some way or another i go fookin nuts, quite literally, but one thing i have to say is, if i am not working i do help with the house and with our 3 kids :)





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Reply:first of all, it's not your fault. second, kick him and his mother out. tell him to come back when he can get a job and keep it. worked for me.
Reply:Lots of luck. Sounds like hubby demands the world to work on his terms and when reality crashes in, he doesn't deal with it in a healthy manner. Mom is apparently an enabler, so basically it sucks to be you.
Reply:sounds like your husband is just another big kid....time you either left or told him things have got to change fast or you will leave....his mother should also hit the road, she sounds like a very narrow shallow lady and not someone you need in your home.....he wants to play victim hey well leave him and let him be the victim of his stupidity and ignorance
Reply:I can't see how any of this is your fault. Tell him he needs to be more reliable because you can't keep moving every time he exhausts all the job leads in a particular city. If jobs were fun, they wouldn't have to pay us to go to them. And tell him his mother either needs to move out or you're going to go get a job of your own.
Reply:Gosh,, you have put up with this for a long time.


I dont know how you do it.


You can't change the man. You can only change yourself. You need to make a decision of what you need to do.





sounds like your husband is still a little boy and it is time for him and his mom to set up a house hold together and stop mistreating you and the kids.
Reply:Time for a reality check! It is not *your* fault your husband cannot keep a job. Get the mother out of the house, she is not helping you. You and your husband need to sit down and hash out where your priorities should lie. Yes, life has dealt you a tough hand. If you believe you cannot rise above it, you are right. If you believe you can get through this, you are right. My father, a very wise man, always said, "don't let a poor boss be the reason you do not succeed at your job". I think your husband needs a reality check on life. If he's so smart, why isn't he rich?? The victim role he plays will only hurt him and you.